concerning co-workers divorce -- get over it!

I've got a co-worker who is leaving her husband, she's in her early 20's with a toddler. This couple has been together 5 years and married for 3. She's leaving her husband because he plays video games too much and she doesn't feel he spends enough time with the child (where is the child now though? with the grandparents...convenient), at least that is what I am gathering. My advise to her..."Get over it!"

This man will still do anything for her even though she has moved out. She called him this morning at work because she forgot her work shoes and asked him to bring them to her. What does he do, he leaves his job and goes and buys her new shoes and brings them to her. And she acts all rude about it. GROW UP!

I could see where the video game thing could get annoying, but every man has some kind of hobby. Mine is into cars and spends much of his free time in the garage, but you don't her me bitching about it. Hell, sometimes it's even nice...I get some me time too! Back to my point...you could have it soooo much worse. He could be out at the bars every night with his buddies. He could be out there chasing other women & cheating on you.

Stop playing with his emotions. Either you want him or you don't, you can not be his wife one minute and his ex-wife the next. Love it or leave it, don't play games! Right now he will do anything for you, wait until he gets pissed off...all that shit will change. No more bringing you things, no more Mr. Nice guy!

You say that no matter what, you will still do holidays & birthdays as a family...even after you both remarry. HA HA Of all the people I have ever heard say that, 99% fail! The new wife/husband will ALWAYS take priority over the ex, leaving the child stuck right in the middle. Best not to put the child through it, it can and probably will cause more hurt.

Anyway, I saw the way he looked at you today...he still loves you. If you don't feel the same, you need to be honest with him and stop giving him false hope. Step back into the real world and get out of fantasy land. If you want to make it work, seek outside help. If you don't, then let him go and quit pulling the strings! Then again, I know I don't know the whole story...